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October was a trip.
I mean, really, a wild ride.
Sami from Life, Laughs, and Lemmings got a few of us bloggers to join her on a path to try to do something we normally wouldn’t do, something nice each month based on a “theme.”
October’s theme was kindness.
To be honest, I felt I was looking at the world in a slightly different way since then. I often felt myself asking, “Could I be doing more?” My mind was stretched in a different way somehow by this simple commitment. And, yes, I did things out of the ordinary for me. I made an effort to show acts of kindness that I wouldn’t have normally shown. The world is good.
I’m choosing not to share specifics because, well, my own personal bias or “baggage” is that by sharing, it takes away some of my kindness effort by disclosing it. You know? I have absolutely nothing against others who want to spread the good news about what they’ve done, in this forum or otherwise, but for me, it takes something special away from my act of kindness to broadcast it. I want to keep it meaningful, special, and close to my heart. The acts I performed very much came from my heart.
One thing struck me through this exercise, though—the lack of people who actually asked for kindness. I put out a message via my blog and I contacted people personally (by email or phone) asking how I could help or arrange to bring a little more kindness into their world. And, guess what?
Pin drop. Almost nothing.
Because only three individuals asked for something, very minimal in my opinion, I felt first-hand experience to a profound phenomenon. Our society does not look well upon or put in a good light the act of asking for help (in the form of kindness or otherwise). I may have done even more than I did, but I had such a strong desire to act as the Fulfill Your Wish Fairy. I wanted to know what people really wanted so I could help them achieve it, or make them feel better, or whatever I could do in my power.
So, while the true goal behind October’s Kindness month was met in my eyes—I was more kind—I also was reminded that it’s OK for all of us to reach out to others, even when we feel we don’t deserve it or that we’ll be just fine on our own. I know I am certainly guilty of this, not asking for help when I really could use it.
So, remember to be kind in a way that stretches you. But, importantly, please remember to ask for help, and to not be ashamed to appear vulnerable by asking for it. I guarantee there’s someone out there that is chomping at the bit to help, and I guarantee you’ll both be better for your humble act of asking.
What are your thoughts on asking for help or how society views showing kindness to others?
Next month’s theme: BEAUTY.